I read a couple of books a month, mostly historical fiction for fun. However, I’ve lately been on a self-help/leadership/business kick. For a change of pace, I thought I’d share some of my thoughts about books I’ve read.
Here’s the first. The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins.
First a story. I learned about Mel Robbins back in the early 2000’s when I worked at Borders Books and Music. This was before she became a household name. She was a popular coach and radio host in Boston. We hosted some of her radio shows in our downtown Boston store and creating some marketing videos and content for her first book. She was a large part of our marketing strategy in those last struggling years when we were trying to figure out how to use digital content to stay relevant. Needless to say, we didn’t succeed, but none of that is her fault. Yet, I hadn’t read any of her other books since then.
I loved this book. I related deeply to it because I’ve often let other people’s opinions shape my decisions. Even when I knew it was a waste of energy. This book was a reminder to stop focusing on what I can’t control and start focusing on what truly matters. I love this quote.
No matter how hard you try, you will never be able to control or change another person. The only person you are in control of is you. Your thoughts, your actions, your feelings.
The Let Them Theory is a power move: when we take back the power we give away by letting others dictate our thoughts, feelings, and actions, we win.
Aside from that powerful reminder, here are three actionable takeaways I learned from the book;
- A better way to influence others, not through persuasion or pressure, but by showing what I believe is best through my own actions. This is the “Let Me Theory.”
- Using the old 5 Whys method to help you understand why certain people or situations bother me so much. The reasons are usually more about me, then them. A good reminder.
- Very simple but often overlooked suggestions for making friends (be curious, smile and say hello, duh!).
Mel Robbins’ writing style is entertaining and approachable. The content is easy to read and digest, with step-by-step guidance that feels both comprehensive and doable. I appreciated her real-life examples, even when they showed her in an unflattering light. It made the lessons feel authentic and relatable. She uses a lot of repetition, which at times felt a little much for me, though I suspect it’s intentional to ensure the message sticks.
Here’s the bottom line. The Let Them Theory offers a mindset shift that’s both liberating and practical. I highly recommend it to anyone ready to reclaim their mental energy and live more intentionally.
My next read is the old classic Difficult Conversations by Douglas Stone.
I’ll let you know what I think soon!
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